It happens far too often and contrary to what your abuser will tell you, it is not your fault. You can escape an abusive relationship and domestic violence. You can live without your abuser. Whether you are in danger yourself, or trying to help a loved one, there are things you can do to help end the violence.
If you are in immediate danger and can not get away, call 911. Don’t worry about what people will say or anything else. The police are there to help you and having them there can save your life.
Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline
The National Domestic Violence Hotline is staffed 24 hours a day/7 days a week. Call at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.
Arm Yourself with Information
Abusers are master manipulators, just like cult leaders. They are masters of making victims feel guilty, worthless, and ashamed. Read the truth and arm yourself with the knowledge that it is the abuser’s problem, not the victim’s fault.
Have a Plan
Don’t Go Back
Abusers will say anything to get you back. Don’t go back. Get counseling and support from professionals, family, and friends.